#234StarHelpLine: I Am Pregnant Again!

I am pregnant again! What on earth is wrong with me??? Why is my case always different and just sad? I’ve had the first child, baby daddy abandoned us, second with my present guy and he isn’t even mentioning marriage and I just found out I’m pregnant for him again! 3 children!! I’m only 27. I have nothing going on for me and my career just babies. He’s asking me to abort it and won’t even talk to me. Of course I’m not thinking of killing my own baby but where am I heading in life with this? My life is a mess. I look a mess. I’m still living with my parents. The major issues is that I took a lot of pregnancy preventive drugs mostly herbal not knowing I have been pregnant for two months.

I’m afraid for my baby and my life and our future. I don’t even know if it’s sympathy or advice I want from you. I know what I went through taking care of my other kids practically alone. I dread doing it again.

Our advice: Hey. Even if you don’t agree with any other thing I’ll say, take this from me; You’ll be fine.

You’ll train your kids with or without a man. You’ll live a good life, You’ll reap the fruit of your labor. You’ll be happy but first, your have to take charge of your life. You have to take a decision to make yourself fine. It’s too late for regret. Nothing can change what is but something can change what will be.

Get a job. It doesn’t have to be your dream fancy job just something to keep you going. If you get your dream job, great too. If not, just get busy. Think of ways to make money from something you are good at. That way, you’ll have something to take your mind away from the regret and sadness and still make money out of it. It’s a win win.

Talk to someone you trust about what you are going through. Personally sharing your worries goes a long way it easing your pain and making you feel more at peace.

Stay in a conducive environment even if it means moving out of home when you can afford to. You don’t need negative energy around you.

Determine henceforth that to a large extent, you’ll be in control of your life. See a doctor to get the best birth control method for you if you can’t abstain from sex.

It won’t be easy but it’ll be worth it.

By popular demand, we recently launched our agony column 234Star Helpline where our in-house experts, with the help of our followers attempt to proffer the best solutions to relationship and sex questions sent in by readers. Feel free to send us any question you might have via the email, [email protected].