#234StarHelpline: “I’m In Love With My Fiancé’s Cousin”

Hello 234Star:

I was so much in love with this guy when I just gained admission into the University, he was in his 300L then, we began to date and continued as lovers when he graduated, I felt he would be the man I’d marry because I lost my virginity to him and our love was too strong.

We kept on dating while he was doing his NYSC but lost contact afterwards when he travelled for his maters and also did his PhD in the US.

I dated several other guys and met my husband to be 2 years ago, he is a very loving man who has supported me in my business and every way possible, he cares for me and my entire family and I love him.

The thing here is that, I stumbled upon my university lover at a friend’s party last month, I was surprised to see him and when we decided to keep in touch, as we began talking, I understood a lot that he has been up to in the last few years, he also told me that he came back in search for a wife, and was disappointed that I’m getting married soon, he kept on talking on how he really wants me in his life, one thing lead to another and we had sex, I felt bad about cheating on my fiancé but I realized that I still love my Ex.

He is more handsome than my fiancé and I feel he is richer, but that’s not the thing, I dated him for a longer time, about 3 years and I feel he is my soul mate and we connect more.

2 weeks ago, we had a party in my fiancé’s place and I stumbled upon him again, we were surprised to see each other and I was shocked when I realized he is a distant cousin to my Fiancé.

I called the next day and he was really angry about everything, telling me he loves me but has to let go. This is difficult for me, I don’t know why I got so obsessed with him all of a sudden.

I’m preparing for my wedding but the man that comes to my head every time isn’t my husband.

I don’t even know if I can cancel my wedding to marry my Fiancé’s cousin, because that’s what I plan to do.