5 Really Big Turn Offs That Make You Unapproachable

In this day and time where it’s actually easy to swipe or tap on your device from the comfort of your home, some of us have forgotten how to be approachable inn real life.

From habits to looking nice, there are a couple of things you need to get in check in order to be more approachable.

1. You never look up from your phone

In this social media age it’s pretty easy to get too engrossed in tapping and swiping on your phone instead of paying attention to what is going on around you.

While some of us use this to stop us from sitting down and looking awkward, it can make you seem pretty unapproachable.

2. You’re very aggressive

Some people mix up assertiveness and aggressiveness. They think being assertive means being loud, or rude, or pushy. But it actually means the exact opposite. Consider other people’s feelings when being assertive, and you’ll be doing it right.

3. You don’t pay much attention to how you dress

While you should always wear what makes you feel most comfortable, some occasions call for a bit more polish. When everyone else is dressed up, your casualness can put people off.

Taking pride in your appearance helps you be more physically and psychologically appealing to others.

4. You constantly come off as negative

I love some well-timed sarcasm, or self-deprecating humor. If you’re the negative one in the office, for example, you might notice that people start to avoid you.

Same goes for giving off negative vibes while on a date, or when networking. If this describes you, switching things up can help.

5. You have nervous habits

We all have telltale signs that creep out when we’re nervous. For some of us, it’s playing with our hair, and for others, it’s shaking our legs. Either way, those habits support the idea that we’re not to be approached.

So though it isn’t easy to break these tendencies, they can be changed if we focus on being self-aware. It will definitely take a while, but it’s worth it.