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BBNaija: Why Bella and Sheggz’s ‘Ship’ Is Raising Emotional Manipulation Debate

Every BBNaija season, there is always that one ultimate ‘ship’ with fans of the show fawning and the housemates yearning for that connection. For the Level Up season, Bella and Sheggz’s relationship was supposed to be just that, but in a matter of a few weeks, public opinion turned on the relationship with allegations that Sheggz may be emotionally manipulating Bella.

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Bella and Sheggz

Although their ship continues to spark online debates among viewers who believe it is giving toxic signals based on the couple’s activities in the house, the Shella fandom believes all is well with the ship as they cheer the two housemates on.

That aside, experts have highlighted some traits to look out for when in a relationship so as not to endure emotionally abusive partners. Here are some of the traits.

  • They Isolate You From Others

Every emotionally manipulative person has one plan, to isolate their partner enough for them not to be able to get out of their situation. At that point, the manipulative partner is their ‘Alpha and Omega’, they can do no wrong, and the abused partner has no one to seek advice from.

  • Convince You That You’re The Problem

Emotionally manipulative people are not always the problem. The person on the receiving end is usually the problem, at least that’s according to their thinking. With every issue a person has with a manipulative person, they are more convinced they are the cause of the problems, even when they are not. They are always found apologising.

  • Love Bomb You When They See you Gaining Any Form Of Clarity

They are quick to say I love you and shower their partner with sweet words when they see that they are already losing. It’s like they withdraw to strike again. The crazy thing is the more the person tolerates, the worse it becomes.

  • Humiliate You By Calling You Derogatory Names

Someone that is emotionally manipulating another person may use different tactics to lower their self-esteem for them to see that this is the best treatment they can get from any other person. From blatantly calling their victims derogatory names to patronising them with words like ‘I know you’re trying, but you’re still not emotionally intelligent enough to handle this’. When you’ve clocked them, they degenerate every word they’ve said to be a joke. It isn’t.

  • They Try To Control and Shame You

If you’re in a relationship with an abusive partner, they would probably have threatened to break up with you multiple times. If you have a manipulative boss, they would have threatened to fire you various times as well. For them, it’s a way to control you and make you sit tight. Specifically, they try to make you feel useless and disposable.

All these and more are things someone trying to manipulate a person can do to cage their victims. Emotional manipulation is as bad and as exhausting as physical abuse. However, with the case of the BBNaija couple, we can’t categorically say that this is what it is. But what do you think of their relationship?

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