Njideka Akabogu
So I was over here at work minding my business… Ok not really. It’s Valentine’s Day and it’s hard to mind your business when everyone is throwing theirs in your face. So I was actually going through my Twitter timeline ‘awwing’ at all the displays of love when I stumbled on a conversational thread between American Honey and Campari about men being scum.
Hi Guys. Bisola here. I’ll be taking over #AmericanHoney’s TL today to tell you that this #MenAreScum thing isn’t just bants but fact!
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
I quickly made myself at home and settled to read Bisola’s story because well, men are scum.
Men are really SCUM.
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
A man swears that not all guys are the same. Lie! They may come in diff shapes & sizes, but they all have this in common: scumness.
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
After going 2years without a man, I decided to give this dating thing a shot last Nov. with this fiine guy who’d been on my case for months.
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
It was all going well. Late night dinners. Cupcakes at work, cute texts, good sex & all that. I even met his friends. He was Mr. Perfect.
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
But I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was off. Even though I couldn’t place it.
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
Tried convincing myself that I was probably judging him based on the guys in my past. You could say I have trust issues.
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
But on Friday, I found out the little voice in my head telling me he isn’t any less “scumier” than the previous guys was correct after all.
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
I’d gone to ICM with a colleague after work to get a few things for the weekend when I ran into Mr. Perfect …
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
… with a heavily pregnant woman and 2 kids!
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
Part of me wanted to turn back & disappear, but on 2nd thought, I walked over to say hi. My “BF” replied, “Oh hi, what’s the name again?”
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
Eh?! I didn’t know what to say. I just turned and walked away.
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
Can you imagine? Dude hid a whole wife and two kids from me for almost 3 months and someone somewhere will tell me men are not scum?!
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
As someone who has had her fair share of bad relationships, I didn’t need any more proof that men are indeed scum but Bisola’s story serves to throw more light on what is already an established fact.
And as she rightly pointed out, this isn’t something that started today, Men have been scum since the days of Shakespeare.
@CampariNigeria Even Shakespeare in all his wisdom kinda agrees *side eye*. pic.twitter.com/NR9nVedt2C
— American HoneyNG (@AmericanHoneyNG) February 14, 2017
Truth be told, there is a Bisola in every woman. There is hardly any one of us who hasn’t been through some sort of shit in the hands of a man.
But that is not to say that there aren’t a few (and far between) good men out there. The problem is, they’re not doing enough to make their friends better men. And until they begin to make the required effort, we’ll continue to see ALL men as scum!
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