Popular Nigerian designer, Zizi Cardow, has shared her thoughts concerning women who stay in abusive marriages because of societal pressure, before advising them not to rush into marriage.
The designer and mum of one shared a video on Facebook addressing the story of a married Nigerian woman whose husband told her to send her teenage daughter from a past relationship away from his house simply because he is sexually attracted to the daughter.
Zizi spoke on how the woman came on Facebook to ask her followers what she should do, whether to stay in her marriage and send her daughter away or move out of the home.
Zizi who is married to a white man scolded women for being in marriages that are very unhealthy for them saying:
”When it comes to marriages and what a man or woman do, I don’t really bother because it is their decision and they are adults and you must take the consequences that come out of it but when you involve your kids in it is where it gets me because these kids did not ask to be born neither did they ask for you to make some stupid decisions in your life. I am sick and tired of all these post people put up of somebody gets beaten up, gets stabbed. You get beaten up, you get killed because you want to. Don’t involve your kids in it. When you make stupid decisions that you want to get married because the whole nation is crazy about getting married, don’t get your kids involved in it.
Please my sisters, if you want to get married, think about it thoroughly. Don’t think about just the wedding itself. It’s a marriage, a life time decision. It is not just about Asoebi, caterers, slaying or having the best wedding.
Please women, if you are not ready for children, do not have them. I don’t know why the society is so pressured about people getting married and having children when half of the people that have children are not supposed to. Honeslty, not every woman is supposed to have children and not everyone is supposed to be married. Not every woman who has kids is supposed to be called a mother”.
She also spoke on the society’s popular myth that men are scarce saying; “the truth is that there are men in the society but the quality of men women desire is what is lacking.”
Watch the video she shared below: