Five Things To Do Now That Valentine Is Over and You Spent It Alone

Single people will get what I mean when I say – ‘Thank God Valentine is over!’ Okay, now that you’ve taken that deep breath, and you think I’m on your side, let’s get straight into that thought you’ve had in your head since February 1.

While there’s nothing wrong with being single, many people will agree that it’s more desirable to have love and with it – a partner. At the very least, so that you won’t be so miserable during the holidays and so that you can do ‘my view/your view’. If that isn’t a motivation, you must at least agree with me that you have the small urge to ‘pepper’ other people with the love and joy you have in your relationship.

Whatever your motivation, here are five things you must do to make sure you’re not single and alone when Valentine’s Day comes around next year.

1. Understand Your Own Needs: Before you get to meet anybody new or start a new relationship, get to know yourself. You need to understand what you like, create your standards, decide on what baggage you can or cannot accept. Most importantly, you need to get to love yourself. Take yourself out more, spend evenings alone with yourself, and work on getting happier. Remind yourself that you are lovable and there’s love out there for you. You’ll see, the love you want will find you.

2.Go Out More: Part of getting to know yourself more will include taking yourself out on dates. Go to places where you are most likely to find someone who may have similar interests and values. When you go out, dress up, look nice, and LOOK UP FROM YOUR Phone. It is necessary to make eye contact with total strangers, smile at people, and be inviting. People need to feel you’re approachable before they can even find the courage to come up to you and get to know you. Plus, a smile will only make you look more attractive.

3. Don’t be Shy: For many people, the biggest reason why they have now joined the ‘single to stupor’ club is that they are shy. There’s no question about whether they are beautiful, have decent attitudes, or are generally good people. The only problem is that they are continually running away from being seen. Apart from being too shy, there’s also the problem of being afraid. Never be scared to shoot your shot when you meet or see someone you like. The worst that would happen is they wouldn’t feel the same. Inversely, they may be open to trying things out, and the only thing that will keep that from happening is something as little as fear.

4. Be Available: It’s one thing to be single and another to be available. Many people subconsciously keep themselves from meeting or falling for other people because they are too busy pining for someone who either doesn’t want them or hasn’t even noticed them. It’s time to clear your mind of people who do not want to be with you, regardless of how much you want to be with them. Give someone else a chance and allow someone to sweep you off your feet!

5. Quickly Sieve Out Time Wasters: When you eventually start meeting people, realise that not everyone is there for the same reason. If what you want in a relationship is the Tik-Tok, couple goals, kind of love; then be honest from the get-go. Do not waste time with people who crave all the benefits of being with you and none of the actual titles. Define any new relationships you get into as soon as you can. And if possible, avoid having sex until there is a definite title to whatever you both have going on.

These are not foolproof plans for falling in love, but a step in the right direction. Hopefully, Cupid shoots the arrow that makes you and your future partner fall utterly in love with each other.